My daughter made a shocking declaration last night.

She stated that she did not remember anything from her fourth grade homeschool curriculum.


She said that she remembers stuff from her kindergarten and half of first grade school work in public school. And she remembers coming to homeschool after being pulled from public school. And she remembers her last two years, that being 7th and 8th grade. But that’s memory of 2nd through fourth grade, no fifth grade, and no 6th grade.

And my response was, “WHAT?!?!?! How can you NOT remember 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, and 6th grade?!”

I had a huge panic for a minute…then I realized after talking to her a few minutes it was something else entirely.

We homeschool year round. We take a break usually from her birthday, which is late summer, until the beginning of the public school year, but we do not take a summer break. We don’t make a big deal about the beginning of the school year, no new backpacks, no pictures, and no neat signs. We just go back to school. And the fact that at any given time she is in one grade in one subject, another grade in a different subject, and potentially a third grade in yet a different subject means that it is not necessarily memorable at any given moment.

And I realized that this makes school years really indistinct. Honestly, whenever anyone asks her what grade she is in she looks at me.
I wish we had taken a picture at the beginning of each school year with a sign that stated the grade. I wish she didn’t look at me like she doesn’t know what grade she is in even though I have told her.

So, then, the next question is does it even matter? As long as I keep up with everything, does it matter what grade she is in, or whether each school year is distinct? And if it doesn’t matter does this lead to a different question. How do you determine when your child has learned enough to graduate from high school?

I mean, in her first year of high school, her 9th grade year this year, she had to complete an extra middle school science course, but she also took a high school paragraphs course before she completed 8th grade. Also while in 8th, she started Algebra, which is considered a high school math. So the start of her high school career is somewhat blurred. And at the end of her high school career I expect for her to take some dual credit courses, which blurs the end of her high school years as she would be getting college credit while in high school.

I’d love to have you chime in. What do you do to make each year distinctive? How do you insure that your homeschooled child knows what grade he or she is in?

“You can’t remember WHAT?”


Homeschooler of one daughter for over 7 years, using their favorite homeschool resources, Time4Learning and Vocabulary and Spelling City. Interests include writing, reading, gardening, crochetting, knitting, and of course, homeschooling.

    Follow me on:
  • googleplus

One thought on ““You can’t remember WHAT?”

  • December 23, 2014 at 12:45 am

    My son is now nearly 17. When he was about 6 or 7, a hs mom friend was talking about preparing her kids for Skeptical Grandma’s visit. She was drilling them on appropriate responses to grandma’s questions including what grades they were in. Which prompted me to ask my unschooler, “What would you say when someone asks you what grade you are in?”. He thought and then said, “I think I will just make up a grade…Sparkly Zebra.” For several years after that he made up a new name each year….Polkadot Elephant, Neon Transformers, etc. But Sparkly Zebra is still what I answer when anyone asks me what grade he is in now.


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *